VM : 006/2012 – IS IT INSANITY OR IT IS PRIEST’S VINDICTIVE BEHAVIOUR, AT ITS WORST ??

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VM:    006/2012
25rd, April, 2012
 
IS THIS INSANITY?  OR IT IS PRIEST’S VINDICTIVE BEHAVIOUR, AT ITS WORST?
 
 
Hello Friends
 
As the title suggests, this Voicemail is about behavior of a priest, with a couple entering into a marriage. Never mind, even if it is an interfaith marriage. The Church has set some guidelines in such cases, which the parish priests are supposed to follow. The parish Priest of Our Lady Of Remedy Church, Poinsur; cast all the regulation to wind and blessed the nuptial in Sacristy, near the Cemetery, leaving a lifetime blot on newlywed couple and their family.
 
Attached is letter from the uncle of the bride, to the parish Priest, how the family feel about the treatment meted out to them.  Archbishop’s response to our intervention too, did not bring any relief to them. The family and particularly the bride will have to live with this stigma, throughout their lives.
 
GREG
 
CATHOLICS FOR TRUTH TRANSPARENCY AND WEEDING OF
CORRUPT PRACTICES AT PARISH LEVEL.
 
P.S.:    If you remember, this same priest tried to sell Church Property. Thanks to alert Parishioner, our intervention and prompt action by Archbishop Cardinal Oswald Gracias; the sale was stopped. VOICEMAIL 014/2011.
 
 
 
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To,                                                                                                                                           27th, March, 2012
Most Rev. Cardinal Oswald Gracias,
Archbishop of Mumbai,
Your Eminence,
Enclosed herewith, an emotional letter, from an uncle of newly wedded bride; to the parish priest of OUR LADY OF REMEDY CHURCH, POINSUR; Fr. Peter D’mello. The letter is self explaining. The writer, Mr. Jerry Fernandes, seems to be well versed in the nuptial laws of the Church. Therefore, we need not delve into the same, once again.
The marriage is an experience of lifetime, to which the couple tying the knot; particularly the woman, look forward to. They do everything possible to make the occasion memorable. The celebrations begin with Nuptial mass, where every effort is made to make it meaningful. Because, it is a beginning, the newlywed would like to make, from the House of OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST.
Look Your Eminence, what has been done to the life of this couple, by the Parish Priest, Fr. Peter D’mello. We would like to ask you, is it right on his part to celebrate their nuptials in the Sacristy, closer to the Cemetery, as it has been mentioned by the uncle of the bride, in his letter? The couple will have to carry on this stigma trough out their lives. The bride, who has entered into a new family, must already be feeling a heat of this misdemeanor of the parish priest. Will he or the Church take responsibility for ruining her peace of mind, throughout her life?
Your Eminence, a question must be asked of Fr. Peter D’mello, the Parish Priest, what was the reason for him to do this. Under what clause of Canon Law did he do it? You are the authority on Canon Law; the one of the only three, in India, as we have been told. Will you enlighten the disturbed family on this matter? We have seen Inter cast marriages being performed in the past. WAS THIS MARRIAGE ANY DIFFERENT FROM OTHERS?
Your Eminence, we understand, the copy of the letter from the girl’s uncle to Fr. Peter D.mello, also has been marked to you and other Bishops. It seems, as usual the church hierarchy is silent on this. Otherwise, the family would not be so desperate to get their dignity restored, by approaching unofficial bodies, including us.
Your Eminence, injustice by the parish priest, for whatever reason, to this young lady must be repealed. Her dignity and of course, of our Church, the Institution of Marriage, the Holy Sacrament of Matrimony, must be restored in the eyes of her in-laws, who are from a different community. How it can be done? We need not tell you. We are sure, you will find a way. The sooner it is done the better it will be.
Yours always, in OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST.
GREG R. PEREIRA
Copy to:          Mr. Jerry Fernandes. Parishioner: OL of Remedy Church, Poinsur.
 
 
 
 
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(Post Synodal ApostolicExhortation ofH. H.Late Pope John Paul II)
 
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To,                                                                                                                                           14th, April, 2012                                                                                                                     
Most Rev. Cardinal Oswald Gracias,
Archbishop of Mumbai,
Your Eminence,
Thank you for your prompt response to our letter of 27th, March, 2012, related to interfaith marriage at OUR LADY OF REMEDY CHURCH, POINSUR. Your Eminence, we take your response at face value, and close the chapter. However, a few questions still remain on our minds.
Ø  Since when the law has changed?
Ø  Wasn’t Fr. Peter D’mello aware of this change, at the time he blessed this nuptial?
Your Eminence, as far as we remember, we have seen interfaith marriages being blessed in the Church, not during mass but before the mass, in the Church, since more than five years. Fr. Peter D’mello himself could have blessed some of them.
Whether it was a slip on the part of parish Priest or deliberate vindictive action, only he can explain. However, the blot on the couple’s mind, particularly the girl, would remain for life. Can something be done about it, If not to erase it completely, but at least to minimize it? Your Emininence, we, in our letter had requested you to take a step in this respect. However, you are silent about it.  We are aware; the nuptials can’t be reversed and blessed again. We are also aware that it is impossible for church authorities to accept their mistake in writing. We therefore, suggest that you give an audience to this couple along with their families and give them your blessings. This we believe will reduce the trauma of carrying the injustice throughout their lives. It may gradually help erase it from their mind. We leave this to your choice.
Yours always in OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST
GREG R. PEREIRA
Copy to:          Jerry Fernandes, Parishioner, OUR LADY OF REMEDY CHURCH, POINSUR
 
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